Dear Lizzy

Lonely and Tired
Dear Lizzie,

There's a man I've met. I find him attractive and charming, and the feeling seems to be mutual. I won't call it love at first sight, but we definitely connected instantly. We live in different states, and see each other only infrequently at conventions. He would like to pursue a relationship with me, and I with him.

So, what's the problem? The woman he has been living with has recently developed some potentially devastating health issues. He has pretty much decided not to move out now, because he doesn't want to abandon her. I absolutely respect his decision, but I'm not happy. I know I'm not suited to the poly lifestyle and as much as I like him, I don't see the point in getting more involved now. I don't even feel as if I can just spend time with him -- the attraction is so powerful, I feel like my poor heart is at risk whenever he's near.

What to do? Or have I already answered my own question?

signed,
Lonesome

( Give it time, but keep looking. )

Dear Lizzy

As a mother of an active but not-yet-mobile baby, I'm finding it very difficult to find time to exercise. I do walk with the baby in a carrier, but weather and scheduling are making that more difficult to fit into my day. Worse, when the baby is content to sit in his exersaucer and watch me exercise, I'm finding that aerobics and the like tire me out *much* faster than they used to, and I have difficulty keeping up with my videos. I know that I've gained weight and lost muscle mass. Help!

Flabby Mommy

( Sneak in small bits of exercise wherever you can, and don't beat up on yourself. )