Dear Lizzy

Evil Tease
Dear Lizzy,

Over the weekend, I went to a concert with the express intention of flirting with, and possibly shagging, one of the musicians. I did, in fact, flirt with him, but was sorry to see that instead of the gorgeous man with good posture that I remembered, he had since adopted a "scruffy" look, had taken to hunching over, and actually appeared malnourished. He was extremely sweet, and fun to talk to, but partway through the evening I realized that one of his bandmates had a really nice face, and was also fun to talk to.

So my question is this: just how fickle and unkind am I being? Is it in bad taste/horribly immoral to flirt with two guys at once, especially when they're friends with each other? For that matter, is it ok to flirt with strange men when I'm unsure of my intentions towards them? Am I unfairly leading them on?

Evil Tease

( Nah, as long as chatting them up is all you're doing, you're fine. )

As a woman, I could be out of touch with the guy's perspective. So, guys, what think you? I'll post a selection of answers next week.

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dear_lizzy? If so, please promote it in your journal. I need more questions to keep the column going. Thanks!