Dear Lizzy

Abandoned and Responses to Evil Tease
Dear Lizzy,

Last year, I watched two people who I thought cared for me latch onto each other with forces akin to an Asimov novel. They did this for mutual support as they each underwent a great deal of stress preparing for important events in their lives. I was involved in both events in some minor way, but in the process, I felt completely removed from either social circle. It also didn't help that work has kept me isolated with long and late hours.

Now, their activities have centered around each other, and I no longer feel as though I know them. I have my own, very stressful event fast approaching at the end of the summer, and I am in a bind. I feel that they find me unnecessary and excluded me from even the most mundane activity. For example: they mentioned at a large gathering the interest to get ice cream. I asked if I could go with them and I was told "Oh, this is something we do," as though I was no longer a member of the popular clique.

Should I continue to be friends, or should I no longer seek their advice and company?

-Abandoned

( It's time to have a talk with your friends - separately, if possible. )

Two weeks ago, I had a letter from Evil Tease, asking about the propriety of flirting with two guys at once, when she didn't know whether she was actually interested in either. I asked the men for feedback. Below are the responses.

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