Dear Lizzy

Brief post, in lieu of actually having letters to answer....
Since I've no questions for this week, I thought I would dwell on Lovelorn's letter of last week. It was pointed out to me (by people not the author of the letter) that I was making certain assumptions about the nature of the relationship. Instead, I ask lovelorn some questions.

1) Is it sexual? If so, her husband definitely has a right to know that she is potentially compromising his health.
2) Is her husband abusive? If so, she may have good reasons for keeping silent. However, you still can't help her until she's ready to help herself.
3) Are there children involved? Let her decide what is best for her and her children, if they exist.
4) How long have you known this woman? Have you seen her cycle through other relationships, even "just" friendships? How she treats her friends, from start to end of a relationship, is a good indicator of how she'll treat you.

I'm still inclined to believe that she is looking for attention and drama; however, you know better than I the particular details of her life. However, pay attention to how she treats those around her, and their relative "status" in her life. People do not change at a moment's notice, and her behavior towards others is a good indicator of how she will behave towards you over time.